There is a word circulating in research circles right now. It is not a fun word. The word is — SEXTINCTION. Not extinction. SEXT-inction. The General Social Survey — one of the most respected longitudinal surveys in American social science — found that ONE in THREE American men had no sex in the past year. Not a slow stretch. A full year. Zero. And it's not just men — one in FIVE American women reported the same thing. This is MORNINGS IN THE LAB. I'm Keith, he's Jon. Show 3047. Thursday, May 14th, 2026. Jon — I read that number and I needed a minute. Keith — I needed the whole coffee. One in three is not a rounding error. That is your gym, your office, your group chat. The LIST of suspects: testosterone decline, social media, pornography — and AI companions. Let's get into it.
Here's why this matters RIGHT NOW. Life Extension magazine's May 2026 report confirmed something important: This trend PERSISTS across all sexual orientations — hitting both married AND single people up to age 64. So this is not a story about lonely single guys in their thirties. Something is shifting at the FOUNDATION of human connection. The contributing factors read like a map of modern life: Testosterone levels in men have been declining for decades — the hormones that drive energy, confidence, and libido. Social media has replaced real-world socializing — why risk rejection when you can scroll? Pornography is infinitely accessible — a frictionless simulation that asks nothing back. And now AI companions — customizable digital relationships that millions are choosing OVER the messiness of human ones. Jon — crisis, or natural consequence of too many easy exits? Keith — that is exactly the question.
Here are FIVE things to bring to the table today. ONE — The General Social Survey is not a TikTok poll. Decades of nationally representative data. When it says one in three men, that number has real weight. TWO — Testosterone decline is documented and measurable. The average man today has significantly lower T than a man of the same age in 1980. Lower drive, lower confidence, lower initiation. THREE — Sex researcher Deborah Soh met her OWN AI sex robot twin on the Rubin Report — published May 7th, 2026. She warned that customizable AI partners are pulling people away from real-world connection and creating — quote — a feedback loop of isolation, declining dating, and weaker communication skills. FOUR — Life Extension confirmed this hits MARRIED people too. So it's not only a dating market problem. Something is happening inside relationships. FIVE — Three of the four named causes — social media, pornography, AI companions — are daily choices. That means they're addressable.
This didn't come from nowhere. In the early 1990s, around 15 to 18 percent of men reported no sex in a year. Today it's one in THREE. That is a near-doubling. The timing matters: the smartphone arrived around 2008. Social media went mass market. Broadband porn became infinite. The friction of real-world dating started to feel optional. Now we've added AI companions — apps designed to simulate emotional and physical intimacy. No rejection. No misread text. No bad mood. Deborah Soh walked onto the Rubin Report and came face to face with an AI robot modeled on her own face and voice. Jon — mandatory pause on that. Keith — one of the wildest things we've covered this year. She said it was unsettling — but she understood the appeal. And her warning was clear: the more people substitute AI for real connection, the worse they get at the real thing. The feedback loop compounds. Isolation leads to less dating, leads to weaker skills, leads to more isolation.
So what do you DO with this? First — this is not a shame story. If you're in that one in three, you've got a lot of company. The stat exists because the culture got here together. But if you want different results, the levers are real. Testosterone — get your levels checked. A blood test. If energy, motivation, and drive are low, know your numbers before guessing at the cause. Social media — every hour on the scroll is an hour not in a room with another human. That's arithmetic, not a lecture. AI companions — use them however you want. But if they're replacing the desire to connect with real people, Deborah Soh's feedback loop is worth taking seriously. The through-line: the easy frictionless option rarely BUILDS anything. Real connection requires risk. Requires showing up. Requires tolerating awkward. Every day you either get reps at that — or you don't.
Every man listening did the math when we said one in three. Some of you nodded. Some of you laughed. Some of you felt something you didn't expect. No judgment here. BAPL — be a pro at life — means looking at the data honestly. If your connection life isn't where you want it, what is ONE thing you could change this week? Not a transformation. One rep. Less screen. One real conversation. A text to someone you've been meaning to reach. Three of the four causes are daily choices. You have more agency here than the headline suggests.
We want to hear from YOU. What's your read — is sextinction a crisis, a phase, or just what happens when humans get infinite entertainment options? Have you noticed this in your own circle — guys more checked out, more comfortable with a screen than a person? Drop it in the comments. No judgment. Real talk only. Share this with someone who needs to be in the conversation. Tag your boys. Tag your community. This is the kind of story that gets worse when nobody talks about it.
We don't cover this to depress you. We cover it because you can't fix what you can't NAME. And the name today is sextinction. Loneliness is one of the strongest predictors of early mortality. Connection is not a luxury. It is INFRASTRUCTURE. The guys who build that — real relationships, real community, real intimacy — those are the ones performing well at 50, 60, 70. That is longevity from the inside. Use this. Let it be useful. This is MORNINGS IN THE LAB. Keith and Jon. Show 3047. We'll see you TOMORROW.
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